Does How And Where Your Grew Up Define You?

Today as I was scrolling though Instagram, I came across a girl I went to high school with. She posted about how she left our home town and a little bit about her journey. This got me thinking about how we all come from our hometowns. We all learn things from where we grow up. Whether we like it or not, where we grew up and the values that were instilled in our brains shaped us into who we are right in this moment.

If that triggered you, I want to dive deeper.

You can let how you grew up define you in all that it is or you can choose to rise up, learn, heal, and grow. You hold all the power. It doesn’t even matter whether or not you consider how you grew up to be good or bad. What matters is that you see what you have learned and adapted to objectively. Then choose whether or not all of those beliefs are in alignment with who are now, in the present moment.

I don't know about you, but all that hit me like a ton of bricks.

Up until a year ago, I let how I grew up define me in a big way that wasn't serving me. I reveled in my victim story because I was pissed off about how I grew up. I spent so much time being angry that I was young and struggling on my own. I blamed my situation on my parents, ex-friends, the church, my hometown I disliked. I blamed it all. I loved to play the blame game because I thought that was just part of life. 

BINGO. That right there.

That was the false belief doing nothing but blocking me dulling my life.

Because you know what? You get to believe and do whatever the fuck you want. I didn’t have to stay a victim who blamed everyone else. I got to decide that I was a powerful being created from the highest good. I got to decide that I was done blaming everyone else and take power of my situation. You get to decide.

The moment I did, my life started to change. I started to awaken. To learn. To really listen. When you begin to look at your life objectively, you begin to see what’s blocking the natural flow of your being. Typically those blocks were created during your childhood.

When you (finally) face what’s blocking you, you get to work. You realize you don’t have to spent time with people who don’t make you feel good. That includes your family and friends. It’s okay to set boundaries to keep yourself safe and supported. You get to let go of the things in your life that are no longer serving you. If your job is sucking the life out of you, you don’t have to stay there. If you don’t like where you live, you have the power to move.

I’m not saying that this work is easy. It usually isn’t. What I’m saying is it’s worth it. It’s necessary. This is the work that will follow you your entire life until it physically makes you sick or it one day busts down a door you won’t be able to hold close any longer. Not doing your work affects your children, the relationship with your spouse, the relationship with yourself. Your. Entire. Life.

It sounds like a big deal because it is. 

Your life is a big fucking deal. Own that.

My call to action for you is this: be honest with yourself. Painfully honest. Look at your life. Look at yourself. Look at where you live and what job you go to. Decide if how you’ve been operating is how you want to continue or if it’s just another product of a limiting belief you grew up with.

If you’re not sure where to start or whether or not something feels right to you, listen to your intuition. You are in fact a powerful being after all. Listen to your body. Pay attention to your thoughts. Let your thoughts come from a place of love. 

Because when you operate from a place of love, everything you do has pure intention. You get to breakthrough your limiting beliefs, radiate love onto the people in your life, creating ripple effect, and ultimately feel good about the life you’re living.

You are worthy and deserving of that.

If you're feeling called to reach out for support and take your healing work to the next level, reach out. Let's talk. Shoot me an email samantha@samanthadurkee.com

Samantha Durkee

P.O. Box 48, Boyne Falls, MI 49713